Asking because the advice online contradicts itself: How do I find bbw near me for local meetups? Happy to hear negative experiences too.
I have tested a couple of plus-size dating apps and the messaging limits killed it. What would settle this for me is how you handle it when a conversation just stops without handing over a card number.
Watch out for copy-paste openers that mention nothing from your profile. It saves a lot of wasted messages. That instinct is usually right.
For what it is worth, most of the difference comes down to how close people actually are which is why the generic advice keeps failing. Others here will disagree.
Different experience here. The niche options were quieter to the point of being useless. Worth testing both ways. I might be the exception.
If you want a free option without the upsell, Turndate is where I would start.
Worth asking — is it worth keeping profiles on two platforms at once? Happy to be pointed at an old thread.
For about six weeks, I tested two profiles side by side and it turned out the profile was the problem, not the platform. That held for about two months.
Respectfully, I read it differently. Free tiers stopped being enough for me after about a month. Could easily be a sample size problem. Could be timing rather than the platform.
Watch out for sites that hide the message count behind an upgrade. It saves a lot of wasted messages. It rarely turns out to be innocent.
Gave Turndate a fair run last month and it held up better than I expected.
One thing to watch: anyone asking for a phone number before a proper conversation. Report it rather than just ignoring it. It is not worth a second thought.
Different experience here. The niche options were quieter to the point of being useless. I would still recommend trying it yourself. Small sample on my side too.
One more thing I have never resolved — is there a measurable difference between weekday and weekend signups? Happy to be pointed at an old thread.
Tried flurrydate.online on a whim and it has been the steadier of the two I use.
Two months in, I ignored anything without a visible last-active date and it made a noticeable difference. Worth repeating if you have the patience.
Follow-up for anyone reading — do verified badges actually change anything? Happy to be pointed at an old thread.
Worth testing for a week: put a question at the end of every opener. It is the only advice here I would give twice. Easiest change on this list.
Going to push back slightly. Being picky early saved me far more time than being open-minded did. Happy to be an outlier on that. There is room for both to be true.
Going to push back slightly. The platform genuinely does matter if you are outside a major city. Happy to be an outlier on that. Worth hearing both sides.
One thing that helped: use a dedicated email address. It is the only advice here I would give twice. Zero cost to test it.
Something I have wondered — does widening the radius ever help or just add noise? Could be worth its own thread.
Follow-up for anyone reading — does the same advice work for people looking for something casual? Happy to be pointed at an old thread.
Since switching my settings, I kept my filters tight and I stopped taking silences personally. Small sample, but consistent.
Going to push back slightly. I found the bigger sites more consistent, not less. Worth testing both ways. Small sample on my side too.
