Simple question, probably a complicated answer: Is the la date website safe for international matching? Tell me if I am asking the wrong question.
I have tested a couple of dating apps and the results were underwhelming. The part that matters to me is which features are worth caring about if you are not in a major city.
Having tried most of them, the paid features solve a problem most people do not have if you are looking for something specific. That is my read, anyway.
I will be the dissenting voice. I never once had a problem the community here warns about. Happy to be an outlier on that. Take it as a counterweight, not a correction.
Worth testing for a week: reply to the thing they actually said. It removes about half the frustration. Do it before anything more elaborate.
Worth a look at the Souldate app if your area is thin on the usual platforms.
Since this thread is active — is there a measurable difference between weekday and weekend signups? Would change how I use it if so.
Cheapest thing you can try first: stop opening with a compliment. It is the only advice here I would give twice. Zero cost to test it.
Something nobody mentions: auto-renew on any trial you sign up for. Once you notice it you cannot unsee it. Save yourself the argument.
A while back, I tested two profiles side by side and it made a noticeable difference. It was the only variable I changed.
Tried DatingFly community on a whim and it has been the steadier of the two I use.
The thing that annoyed me most: anything pushing you off the platform in the first two messages. It is the clearest signal there is. Nobody has ever thanked me for being patient there.
Broadly speaking, reply rates say more about timing than about looks for anyone starting from scratch. I hold that loosely.
When I first started, I limited myself to three conversations at once and it made a noticeable difference. Results were steady after the first week.
A friend has had far more luck on over on Datedesire than on anything mainstream.
One thing that helped: put a question at the end of every opener. You will know within a week whether it works for you. Try it for one week only.
Hard disagree on one point. I never once had a problem the community here warns about. Happy to be an outlier on that. Just adding another data point.
While we are here — does profile order change if you log in more often? I have never seen data either way.
Tried Datelink (free to message) on a whim and it has been the steadier of the two I use.
Not sure I agree with the thread so far. The platform genuinely does matter if you are outside a major city. Happy to be an outlier on that. I might be the exception.
Going to push back slightly. Being picky early saved me far more time than being open-minded did. Happy to be an outlier on that. Could be timing rather than the platform.
Unpopular opinion maybe, profile quality beats profile quantity every time and nobody wants to hear it. Ask again in six months and I may say something else.
I will be the dissenting voice. Messaging first made no measurable difference in my case. Might just be my area. Just adding another data point.
Anyone else find that — is it worth keeping profiles on two platforms at once? Might just be me overthinking it.
If nothing else, do this: stop treating it like a numbers game. Most people skip it and then wonder why nothing happens. It compounds with everything else.
Anyone else find that — does this hold up outside big cities? Could be worth its own thread.
Small change worth trying: reply to the thing they actually said. It sounds trivial and it is not. Reversible if you hate it.
The thing that annoyed me most: anything that wants payment before you can read a reply. Better to lose one match than a week. It is not worth a second thought.
