Is there a rich dating app that requires members to verify their tax returns?

Would rather hear it from members than from a review site: Is there a rich dating app that requires members to verify their tax returns? Bonus points if you have used it in the last few months.

I burned two weekends on a few smaller rich dating app and the results were underwhelming. What would settle this for me is which features are worth caring about without making it a second job.

• Assess whether messaging is capped straight away if privacy matters to you
• Find out the distance filter default straight away before you invest any real time
• Work out whether profiles are verified early on in the first day or two
• Confirm the refund and cancellation terms early on before you widen your search
• Assess how reporting actually works on any platform you are considering

Adding a counterpoint. The platform genuinely does matter if you are outside a major city. Might just be my area. I might be the exception.

• Note how quickly support responds at the start before you widen your search
• Assess the last-active timestamp first so you are not surprised later
• Look at how matches are ordered on day one before you invest any real time
• Check how matches are ordered every time in the first day or two

Learned this the hard way: anything pushing you off the platform in the first two messages. It is almost never worth the benefit of the doubt. Nobody has ever thanked me for being patient there.

For what it is worth, profile quality beats profile quantity every time and it took me too long to learn. Feel free to prove me wrong.

Still keep Datedesire community installed for the weeks when the bigger apps go quiet.

For what it is worth, most of the difference comes down to how close people actually are at least in a mid-sized area. Others here will disagree.

Anyone else find that — does this hold up outside big cities? Feels like something someone must have tested.

Red flag for me: matches that go quiet the moment you suggest meeting. Better to lose one match than a week. The cost of being wrong is low.

Ended up spending most of my time on DatingFly community and the reply rate was noticeably better.

Low-risk approach: write one sentence that only you could have written. It removes about half the frustration. Do it before anything more elaborate.

• Read up on whether messaging is capped first especially on a platform you have not used before
• Assess the age range settings without exception rather than taking the marketing at face value
• Read up on the refund and cancellation terms up front if you plan to use it long-term
• Look at whether messaging is capped early on rather than taking the marketing at face value

Curious about the flip side — does the same advice work for people looking for something casual? Would change how I use it if so.

Since switching my settings, I tested two profiles side by side and the reply rate roughly doubled. Same pattern every week.

Not sure I agree with the thread so far. The platform genuinely does matter if you are outside a major city. I would still recommend trying it yourself. I would still test it yourself.

Worth a look at over on Rendate if your area is thin on the usual platforms.

What I would do: turn off notifications and check twice a day. It is the only advice here I would give twice. Skip the clever stuff until you have done that.

Got burned by this: profiles with a single photo and no last-active date. Nine times out of ten it goes nowhere good. Better safe than curious.

Last month, I replied only to messages with an actual question in them and I finally stopped wasting evenings. Repeated it twice to be sure.

Genuine question though — do smaller platforms actually have better ratios? Happy to be pointed at an old thread.

The one that surprised me was Turndate community — smaller, but the profiles were current.

Before anything else: reply to the thing they actually said. It removes about half the frustration. It compounds with everything else.

• Find out how reporting actually works every time before you upload anything personal
• Read up on the last-active timestamp at the start before you invest any real time
• Verify whether messaging is capped before you widen your search

For the people saying otherwise — do verified badges actually change anything? Genuinely do not know the answer.

For about six weeks, I limited myself to three conversations at once and the quality improved more than the quantity. It stopped being random after that.

Not a popular take here, review sites and real experience rarely agree though your mileage will vary. Others here will disagree.

The thing that annoyed me most: auto-renew on any trial you sign up for. Better to lose one match than a week. Trust the pattern, not the excuse.

Going to push back slightly. Being picky early saved me far more time than being open-minded did. Could easily be a sample size problem. Could be timing rather than the platform.

After rewriting my profile, I ignored anything without a visible last-active date and I would do the same again. Nothing scientific about it.

Before anything else: set your radius smaller than feels sensible. It sounds trivial and it is not. Easiest change on this list.

Speaking only for myself, how you handle a stalled conversation matters more than how you start one at least in a mid-sized area. Make of that what you will.

Different experience here. Messaging first made no measurable difference in my case. I would still recommend trying it yourself. Worth hearing both sides.

Worth testing for a week: turn off notifications and check twice a day. Most people skip it and then wonder why nothing happens. Easiest change on this list.

Worth noting that DatingFly runs a similar free tier if you want to compare.